She was abused by her father and decided to tell: "He did and then paid me, like a prostitute"

Rocío lives in a town called General Cabrera, 220 kilometers from the city of Córdoba.He has a Cordoba tune although he was born in Neuquén and arrived in town when he was 6 years old, after the separation of his parents.The agreement between adults had been clear: she and her sister were going to spend the year to more than 1.000 kilometers away with the condition that summer vacations will be spent in Neuquén, with their dad.

"In December, when I finished second grade, we traveled to see it," says Rocío Dinolfo –19 years, medical student - to Infobae."I had always been very attached to him and he had never been aggressive with me, that's why no one came up with that he could do something like that.".In front of the mother of her daughters, in addition, she was responsible: she had never stopped paying the food fee.

To his sister, who was 11 years old, he had to sleep alone in a room.Rocío, who was 7 years old, had to sleep in the marriage bed with his dad, who was 60.

"What I remember is that he was waiting for my sister to fall asleep and touched me.Sometimes I started when I already slept because I woke up and I was playing.At first I saw him as normal, he told me it was a game, I didn't threaten me or anything, "he continues."Then I began to force me to see pornography and masturbate in front of me," he continues.There is more but Rocío still feels disgust and shame, so he asks not to give details.

The first threat came a night he refused to see pornography."I told him that I didn't like it and that I was going to tell my mother and he replied that if I counted it, I would enter the room where my sister slept and I was going to kill her".Rocío spoke with his mother on the phone "but always in front of him," he explains."I remember that I couldn't sleep at night, I closed my eyes and imagined killing my sister".

February arrived, they returned to Córdoba and Rocío began third grade, still in silence.In the summer, the sisters returned to Neuquén, this time accompanied by an aunt."That summer was worse, because I did and then paid me, like a prostitute.He told me that it was to buy me beautiful things and if I didn't accept the money, I threatened me again ".His "parent", so calls it now, left him money in the bag in which he wore his underwear.

"That still makes me cry, it was like I enjoyed humilling me.Obviously I didn't do it for pleasure but he still gave me a prize.It was getting worse, it started telling me that if I spoke I was also going to kill my mother when I went to look for us.I was already afraid that when I felt disgusted, I was hiding, for fear of getting angry ".

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Already back, when his mother disarmed his bag, he asked what that money between the bombs was.Rocío lied to him: he told him that they stayed with the return when they sent her shopping.Another year passed in silence.But when December arrived and the heat announced another summer the same, exploded and told her mother.

It was 2008, child sexual abuse was still an issue that used to hide but his mother and who is still her stepfather today, went to make the complaint."They referred us to a minors court in Río Cuarto, but the woman who attended us said that without evidence he could not take a complaint like that," he says."They should have tested with psychologists.How a girl is going to lie with something like that?I don't know what evidence they needed: should I have killed us, so they had evidence? ".

As Rocío's mother had called the father of his enraged daughters - he said he disappeared or was going to kill him with his own hands - they did not know his again."I was always afraid to get out of school and appear at the door," he recalls.Already in fifth grade, Rocío began to gain weight.At age 12 he was diagnosed with morbid obesity.

"I think the food was a shelter, I went to primary and weighed more than 100 kilos.I started suffering a lot of bullying.I got out of weight only in adolescence, when it cost me even breathing ".There was, after that addiction, suicide attempts, something frequent in victims of sexual abuse in childhood.Yes there was, on the other hand, difficulties to meet a male and establish an intimate relationship: "I was afraid to feel disgust, react badly and not know how to explain it to him.".

They knew their story their friends and some relatives but last week, when the hashtag #cuelo was spread on social networks, Rocío decided to make their story public."To have been able to speak and break the secret saved me, because today I am fine.And also to believe me and defend me, because I know that some boys or their moms believe them.I am seeing girls of my age who are going through situations of abuse or harassment and do not dare to speak, "he says.The hashtag was created in Spain and last Monday was trending topic on Twitter in Argentina.

"I wanted my story to reach the women who continue to shut up, so they can bring it to light.Sexual abuse is something that takes a lifetime, do not forget it anymore but if you can break the secret, if your environment believes and accompanies you and if justice protects you instead of asking for evidence, the weight is lighter " , He says.Rocío's father died three years ago: it was never, not even, cited to declare.

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