You are not alone: my partner's hobbies that previously tolerated and now I hate

When we start a relationship we tend to mimic with our partner so that our environment, confusing, does not know where one begins and the other ends.We leave the singular in ostracism and give ourselves without brakes to the plural.You, who did not go in sports or run, you see yourself walking through the neighborhood with the hair like the scourer with which you clean the pot, and the legañas without removing.

This strange phenomenon, far from being a state of alienation, has explanation and occurs to the majority, despite being entities in full use of its faculties.“It is the era of romance in which we distort or project the fantasy that everything is perfect in the other and together with him.We adapt in almost everything to the other.Our character and our behaviors change to try to please and make the relationship that begins more rewarding.At that time we do not perceive, or do not give importance, to the couple's defects, ”explains psychologist Eva María Barata.

But the fateful day comes when Bruces is collided with reality.Blind love doses are considerably reduced and certain behaviors of the, until then idolized, partner are ceased to tolerate.It is time to digest that this perfect person, who does not sweat and does not smell after running a marathon, is not waiting for the corner, because she neither exists today nor will exist tomorrow.

"We live in a society that instills values that transmit the idea of a couple the perfect, of the unconditional and eternal love that distorts reality," says the specialist. If an ideal being is sought that only has virtues and that makes usSmile just to name ourselves, we will surely despair and we will not find it.To avoid alienation, it is best to accept that no one is perfect."Most of us expect too much about relationships and that is not healthy," says Eva María Barata.

Few people will recognize that they tried to change a couple, but many are the ones who have done it.Mistake.You have to accept the other person as it is.And if it doesn't interest, cut for the healthy."It is not to tolerate and endure the other's hobbies, since here we would position ourselves in the role of the victim, but to make ourselves responsible for what we want and wish without blaming others," says the psychologist.

"As we turn years, our temperament becomes more radical. We are less tolerant and spend less things overlooked," says Eva María Barata.

This article includes thirty statements from people of all ages and all the sexes that show that the best thing to do is take those taras of ours, sometimes unbearable, couple.

1. Javier (37 years, mechanical): "My girlfriend gets up at six in the morning to go to work. He has the habit of waking me up to kiss me and the good morning. It's fine, it's a detail. But meI bother the two hours that I have sleeped. "

2. Sonia (29 years old, shop assistant): "He gets me out that my boyfriend leaves his clothes throughout the house. At the beginning of the relationship he was funny, but not anymore. He is not able to take it all in the same room. You travel the house and in every corner leaves a garment. When I want to account for half a closet thrown by the ground. "

3. Claudia (32 years, nurse): "My partner takes off her pajamas and leaves it lying as if she moved the skin: pants, underpants and shirt, one garment on top of the other. Then she passes over and there leaves it."

4. Nadia (31 years, waitress): "It makes me very nervous when we are in the car listening to music and does not let me enjoy the song that sounds because it continually to tell me something."

5. Nacho (38 years, professor): "My girlfriend is an obsessive cleanthat we could eat in them. "

6. Fran (36 years, journalist): "I don't like anything else to eat my girlfriend has to pick up the table at full speed. Even if we are watching a movie, she gets up and starts taking the dishes to the kitchen.I tell him that I pick them up later, but nothing ... ".

7. Sara (30 years, Pilates professor): "My partner doesn't like to hear anyone chew. If I want to eat a cookie or apple I have to go to the room farther from the house so that I don't hear me eat."

8. Alicia (35 years, commercial): "My boyfriend is unable to leave the shoes well placed next to each other on the ground. Always leave the right on the left side and vice versa. He says he doesn't bet, but inFour years of coexistence has not yet come the day when I leave them well placed. "

9. Rodrigo (39 years, engineer): "When we are going to eat or dinner at a restaurant I can never choose dessert, because my partner chooses yours and the one I am going to take. The worst thing is that she can eat my dessert,But I can't even smell it. "

10. Gonzalo (36 years, dentist): "The light switches that are doubles have to be both above or both below, if not my girlfriend rides in anger because it does not endure that each one is in a position."

11. Mario (34 years, psychologist): "When he is in the bathroom, even if he is only washing his teeth or combing, my wife does not want anyone inside with her."

12. Iván (28 years old, photographer): "My girlfriend does not let me enter her house if I don't take off my shoes as soon as you cross the door. It is very heavy with that theme."

13. Andrés (37 years old, computer scientist): "When I sleep with my girlfriend I wake up totally uncovered. I don't know how he does it, but throughout the night he takes all the comfortable with her and leaves me with me with nothing."

14. Estefanía (32 years, teacher): "I can't with my partner with how I have to drive. Whenever I laugh in the car with him I have to endure his unnecessary indications."

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15. Ana (26 years, student): "It bothers me that my boyfriend keeps talking to me when I tell him that I am concentrated in an important thing and that I cannot hear him at that time."

16. Teresa (42 years, lawyer): "I have been very bad for my husband to put 20 postponements in the alarm to get up. It is very annoying to be listening to him for an hour and a half when he could be sleeping without noise."

17. Lorena (36 years, social worker): "My partner takes time to get much more than me and I can't stand to have to wait for him as long as I have been ready to leave for a long time."

18. Álvaro (44 years, journalist): "It bothers me a lot that my wife is unable to recognize that she was wrong. I am waiting for the day I say: 'I'm sorry, you were right."

19. Maria (37 years, biologist): "I hate that as for my boyfriend it hurts something minimally the world begins to revolve around its discomfort, and it seems that instead of a cold has malaria."

20. Esteban (55 years, doctor): "It bothers me very much that my wife leaves the bread placed upside down on the table. It doesn't cost to do so well ...".

21. Juan (57 years, accountant): "My wife can't sleep if television pilots or some plug are on, so at night I have to leave the mobile loading in another room."

22. Guillermo (34 years, journalist): "I don't understand why my girlfriend needs the sheets to be perfectly stretched. It forces me to invest 15 minutes to make the bed when everything is later wrinkled nothing else to get into."

23. Eugenio (53 years, lawyer): "At home we cannot close any door because my wife does not support to see them closed. And it is a nuisance because we constantly bothered with the noises we do."

24. Jesus (40 years, commercial): "Whenever you have to scrub my partner's dishes, leave the stack filter full of remains. I find it unpleasant to have to clean it."

25. Sandra (27 years, nurse): "My boyfriend does not conceive that before putting the dishes in the dishwasher you have to give them water to remove food remains."

26. Rubén (41 years, entrepreneur): "Entering the bathroom and seeing that my girlfriend has left the toilet paper by dragging the ground takes me out of my boxes."

27. Adriana (30 years, graphic designer): "My boyfriend nods without listening to me when I speak more than two minutes in a row. It irritates me a lot."

28. Laura (25 years, coach): "I can't file my nails quietly while watching a movie with my boyfriend because it can't stand the noise I do."

29. Julian (50 years, concierge): "I've been complaining for years because my wife cuts my nails on the couch and drops them without picking them out. It seems like a pig, but she sees it normal."

30. Luis (52 years, official): "My partner cannot fall asleep without putting something at full volume on the iPad, and when it seems to be asleep and I will turn it off, glue a jump in bed and raise the volume even moreIn the end I end in the couch most of the nights. "

31. Andrés (50 years, engineer): "My partner pees about five times before going to sleep. Even if I just did it, if we stayed five minutes in bed, he has to get up to return to the bathroom because he needs to peeBefore getting to sleep, it is literally. It is no disease. It is a mania that takes me out of quice. "

32. Irene (32 years, English teacher): "I hate that my boyfriend cook because that implies that everything leaves by shoulder. The hill will be very rich, but it does not compensate me if the kitchen leaves dripping oil for every corner.And then not clean it well. "

33. Laura (27 years, journalist): "I can't stand that my boyfriend drinks milk directly from Tetrabrick."

34. Chelo (54 years old, housewife): "My husband always fell asSpend the nights in the living room. "