12 signs that you are dating an immature child and not a man

Estar en una relación con un “niño” o adulto inmaduro puede ser agotador.

In the early 80s, the term "Peter Pan Syndrome" was used to describe the man who refused to grow.(This comes from the 1983 book Peter Pan Syndrome: men who have never grown up).These men are emotionally immature, unreliable and, often disorderly.

How many times that Vibe as a child seems very liberating at the beginning but becomes a nightmare when dealing with him?We gather some of the most common attitudes or signs that you are treating an immature man to take note.

Here are some revealing signs that you are in a relationship with a child (immature man):

Your house is a disaster:

Like Charlie Brown Pig-Pen's character, he leaves a trace of dirt in his path.My friend Megan once went out with a man whose bow was so messy that the first time he saw him, he shouted out loud because he thought they had stolen him.

It behaves like a teenager:

Know too well a barrel of beer, although he no longer has university age.He loves the party.He behaves like a teenager out of control with his friends and loves to spend heavy jokes to people.

It always has an excuse:

There is always a reason why he did not arrive on time, he could not pay his bills or did not fulfill his commitment, and it is never his fault.Always victim, you can never see that he is the common denominator of his problems.

It has constant economic problems:

I do not mean student loans or a medical crisis;Normally it is someone underemployed or chronic unemployed.

You can go from one job to another leaving your curriculum (if you have one) that looks like a game.Spend impulsively, do not pay your credit cards in time and may not be organized enough to pay your taxes.

Waste too much time:

The toxic trio, as I call it, are marijuana, video games and pornography.It is not someone to enter any of these three activities, use them to disconnect for many hours at the same time.They are also used to avoid intimacy, both emotionally and sexually.

He's not trustworthy:

Do you need to take you to the airport?Waiting for you to take your hand in the doctor's office?Do you want to make sure you see you getting that prize at work?Don't count on that.You have great difficulties to fulfill your commitments.And, when you disappoint you, you don't understand what the problem is.

You cannot bear criticism:

It is too sensitive and lacks the ability to reflect on itself.He sees the suggestions or simple comments as an assault and becomes very defensive when he faces his defects.

It does not handle stress:

Healthy adults develop mechanisms help them deal with stress.An immature man thinks that his stress is worse than that of any other person and that that entitles him to lash out against people.

Or otherwise, find escapist avoidance activities and makes them their hobby that consumes everything.

It is scared when you talk about important events:

Conversations about the course of the relationship, marriage or children are received with a deafening silence or with total avoidance.You can see fear in his eyes as a child when these issues arise and do not face them like a man.

He does not know how to perform appropriate tasks for his age:

He is unable to perform the basic tasks of an adult: put the table, tie a tie or arrange an appointment with the doctor.(In fact, real children are probably better than him in the basic homework).

When you point out that he does not know how to do something, or avoid it completely or try to do it for him.This can put it in a position to allow your bad behavior.

Use armed incompetence to do things for him:

Armed incompetence is when a man pretends that he does not know how to do something, he does it really bad or ask a million questions about how to do the homework for his partner to do it for him.This is particularly frequent in pairs with children.This is how it looks: Zoe has a lot of work to do, so he asks Jack to prepare dinner for her and the children.

Jack as many questions about what he should do and how to do it that Zoe thinks for herself, "it would be faster and easier for me to do myself".Or prepare dinner but burns the food to the point that it is not edible, complains all the time and leaves the kitchen made a disaster, so she doesn't even ask next time.

You are very often "scolding it":

You constantly have to prepare it to behave appropriately when you go out.He often feels disappointed because he can't count on him.He sees him making bad decisions in his career or in his finances and cannot avoid advising him on what to do.You are tired of lifting your ground underwear and cleaning your dirty dishes.You listen to the words that come out of your mouth and you are upset with yourself.Nobody likes to scold, but it becomes a way of life when it doesn't matter how many times do you ask someone to do something that does not comply.

Formalize the relationship will not make it grow:

If these signs that you are dating an immature man sound to you, but you are also thinking of getting married, reflect it well.Marriage does not make a child grow and make it a man.On the contrary, they tend to feel more right to do what they want and not develop anymore.If you like to provide adult children's cleaning and care service, this is an excellent option.If not, run through the hills!

Original Note: Instyle.com

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